Seminar Description
PHIL 380.02: The Self in Love and Friendship
Fall 2025
Michael Taber
St. Mary’s College of Maryland, USA

College is often a time of large changes. Some of these involve developing new friendships, and perhaps even romances…and stressing some already existing friendships and romances.

This semester will provide us the opportunity to examine some important aspects of the role of the self in some meaningful human relationships. Each of us exists in a variety of nested sets of communities, and people from different cultures may organize and experience some of those communities in very different ways, but each culture has some central role for love and for friendship. Aristotle says that we are social animals, and he was not talking only about Greeks. He may turn out to be wrong, but not silly.

It is not enough, however, to say that human happiness needs love and friends (even if it is true), for other issues immediately make themselves felt. For example, what is the relationship between love and friendship: is romantic love simply friendship + sex? What is the relationship between morality and love or friendship: is it possible to love or maintain friendship with someone whom you believe to be morally corrupt? Should we love others for their sakes, or is this not even humanly possible? Does the existence of a god matter to this? These and other questions cry out to be addressed.

Address these matters we will, and in an appropriately friendly spirit of joint inquiry. This is not to say that we will all agree about the matters we discuss; I do not see sincere differences of opinion in a seminar as falling short of an ideal. Our aim instead will be for each of us to explore these issues for oneself, with each of us developing a better sense of what one’s own views are on these matters.

We will approach these matters by way of our readings and seminar discussions. We will look carefully at the readings, not because great thinkers are always right (they aren't), but because great thinkers always challenge us to put up or shut up. That is, if you disagree with something, say, Plato claims, then you had better be able to put your finger on where in his discussion he goes wrong. Anybody can say anything ("Plato is right," "Plato is wrong"); the task in philosophy is to be able to support your position, both to others and to yourself.

 

Course learning outcomes

By the end of the course, students will demonstrate the ability to:

1.     analyze how thinkers were responding to other thinkers about love or friendship;

2.     apply views of thinkers on love or friendship to issues of continuing relevance;

3.     construct effective written communication of ideas about love or friendship;

4.     construct effective oral communication of ideas about love or friendship;

5.     construct a critique of the reasoning used for various arguments in discussions of love or friendship;

6.     ground in primary or secondary sources their claims about thinkers on love or friendship.

 

Land acknowledgement pledge:

We acknowledge that the land on which we are learning, working, and gathering today is the ancestral home of the Yacocomico and Piscataway Peoples. We also acknowledge that St. Mary’s City was partly built and sustained by enslaved people of African descent. Through this acknowledgement, we recognize these communities and all those who have been displaced and enslaved through colonization.

The goal of the land acknowledgment pledge is not only to respect and honor the contributions of Indigenous Peoples and enslaved people of African descent, but to support and learn from all diverse communities in order to build a more sustainable future.  


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